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Part 1: Phone Domination Isn’t For Losers

As a phone sex Mistress, I hear a lot of excuses as to why people choose not to call ranging from “Why pay when I can get it for free?”, “Phone sex is for losers”, “I can’t get turned on by it.” to “I want the real thing, not a fantasy.” They are entitled to their opinion, however, I think that many people are close-minded about an experience which can be extremely erotic, not to mention safe and cost effective.

1.) Phone sex is a safe way to explore fantasies for the newly kinky and reprobate old perverts alike. There is no risk of getting an STD. You don’t have to worry about whether your Mistress honors safe words because you can stop if you don’t like something. You don’t run the risk of paying out big bucks for a mediocre experience because you only pay by the minute. Again, if you don’t like it you can just hang up. You can go places in fantasies that you might not go in real life. Or you can “try them on” and see if a particular fantasy is for you. And if you are hung up on how you look, or are shy, looks aren’t as important as imagination and sexual creativity on the phone.

2.) What do I say when people say phone sex is for losers?

My impression is that most of my customers are NOT losers. The type of person that is attracted to the submissive role is varied, but it seems that most of them are highly intelligent and successful.

In my opinion, phone sex is a more intelligent choice. It takes imagination and an intelligent mind to get turned on by erotica over the phone. I also feel that people who make the choice to go to a phone dominatrix value their physical health over sexual impulse. Being a submissive is a risky position. People who err on the side of caution are that much ahead of the rest. Also, the type of customers who are attracted to my flavor of kink, i.e. feminization, tend to be either very secure in their manhood and their ability to get in touch with their feminine side, or they are at peace with their exploration of the feminine and feel comfortable with it. No coward or loser would dare to be called a pussy or have the female/male roles reversed. In fact, in my opinion, the losers are the ones who hide behind macho facades such as “I ain’t no sissy?” For my callers to allow me to take them to that place of sissification, it takes great nerve and security in who they are as a person.

3.) Phone sex Mistresses are more available than the professional dominatrix. Therefore, the price is usually reasonable, anywhere (on average) from .79/minute on up to 2.99 per minute. Since most calls last on an average of 3 minutes, you cannot really go wrong. So if you want to go out and pay $10 for a cheap street hooker and run the risk of getting an STD go ahead. However, you’ll get more for your money with a phone dominatrix and you’ll find that most of the phone dominatrix in the business are far more intelligent and far more interested in giving you the ultimate domination experience, and enjoying themselves in the process. In addition to that, with the computer age and the ability to forward calls, more and more women with mainstream lives are becoming part time phone sex operators, so stereotypes of phone sex women do not really apply.

4.) Why pay when you can get it for free? To put it simply, there are no games, no strings, and no commitments. You don’t have to go through the game playing of the dating experience or be concerned that your phone dominatrix is not going to be into your kink. Most state their preferences clearly on their website so you know where you stand. You can have a regular calling relationship with a phone dominatrix, or not. But there are never any obligations. Phone workers are discreet. Although I get to know the personality and likes and dislikes of my regular callers, I have no commitment to them other than sharing my imagination, my sexy voice, and my love of BDSM. I don’t see any of their financial info or their name because the website I work out of takes care of that.